The Best Long-Distance Sex Toys for Couples: A Guide to Teledildonics

Do you and your partner spend a lot of time apart? Maybe you're in a long-distance relationship trying to keep the fire alive, but the lack of sex is difficult?

Allow me to introduce long distance sex toys!

Long distance sex toys (or LDR sex toys) can be controlled remotely or synced up over Wi-Fi, allowing you and your partner to pleasure each other from 1,000s of miles away.

Here, we're gonna take a look at the best long distance sex toys you can buy right now, as well as give you some tips and tricks. Let's go!

7 Best Long Distance Sex Toys


Many LDR sex toys designed for oppostite-sex couples come in pairs which can be synced together – one for the man and one for the woman. Kiiroo and Lovense also make same-sex versions too.

Most the toys below can be controlled individually or synced as a pair:

Kiiroo Onyx & Pearl

The world’s most advanced teledildonics toys

Dutch company Kiiroo actually got their start by making medical supplies and equipment. Now, they’re one of the biggest Wi-Fi sex toy companies on the planet!

The Kiiroo Onyx 2 (men) and Kiiroo Pearl 2 (women) are two compatible adult toys that work in tandem to create real-time sexual escapades for couples in a long-distance relationship.

The pulsations from the male penis stroker are converted to vibrations in the female Wi-Fi vibrator.

Kiiroo Onyx 2


The Onyx 2 can actually be used as a VR (virtual reality) sex toy for you and your partner, as well as a regular remote control sex toy.

This toy does it all!

There are 10 contracting rings inside the chamber which send unique pulsations up and down the length of the penis – this is more than just a vibrating Fleshlight.

The Onyx 2 produces some amazing penis-massaging sensations, but many men find that they still have to “fuck” the toy in order to cum.

Kiiroo Onyx 2

Kiiroo Pearl 2


Kiiroo Pearl 2 is a female app controlled vibrator with 9 different vibration modes ranging from slow pulsations to ultra-high vibrations.

 The Pearl 2 also comes with a modern touch-sensitive control panel which makes it feel really classy and sleek, allowing you to have sensual virtual sex with your partner easily!

Kiiroo Pearl 2 Fuse Couples Set

As soon as I hear my Kiiroo Pearl 2 buzzing away, I imagine my boyfriend’s cock ejaculating deep inside me.

How the Onyx 2 and Pearl 2 Connect


The Onyx 2 and Pearl 2 sex toys connect via the FeelConnect app for Android and iOS, allowing couples in LDRs to have virtual sex. 

These sex toys for couples are able to effortlessly communicate over Wi-Fi and mimic real sex over 1,000s of miles.

PROS: Light, quiet, powerful (Onyx 2); strong vibrations, reasonable price (Pearl 2)

CONS: Pearl 2 can’t be used anally; Onyx 2 requires manual pumping to cum 

Lovense Max & Nora

More vibrations patterns = more fun

Max and Nora

Max and Nora are a pair of remote control sex toys that are controlled via the Lovense Remote app which can be downloaded to most modern Android and iOS phones, tablets, and laptops.

The more the woman thrusts with her Nora vibrator, the more the Max penis stroker vibrates and contracts with air pressure. 

Similarly, the more the man thrusts with the Max, the more the Nora vibrates and rotates, massaging the internal G-spot and clitoris simultaneously.

Lovense have recently released the Lovense Max 2, a new version of the Max automatic male masturbator.

Lovense Max 


The Max is designed with an internal Fleshlight-style sleeve. The toy itself vibrates and contracts to massage your cock, using air pressure to simulate mild suction on your cock. 

Combined with the bumpy inner texture of the orifice, the Max is intense enough that some men cum without thrusting at all.

The Max is designed to have a fake vagina, clitoris, and inner labia, so it’s a pretty accurate replica for your long distance virtual sex experience.

Lovense Nora


This app-controlled rabbit vibrator both vibrates and rotates, creating excellent dual stimulation for your G-spot and clitoris. 

Many women use rabbit vibrators during sex with their partner, so why not during virtual sex?

Check out our Lovense Nora review for more detail.

The blended orgasm produced by rabbit vibrators is often the most intense orgasm that a woman will ever experience.

How the Max and Nora Connect


The Max and Nora couples sex toy set connect and interact with each other via the Lovense Remote app which can be found on the Google Playstore and Apple Appstore. 

The Lovense Remote app features a database of 1,000s of vibration and contraction patterns created by Lovense users for you to try – these fun sex toys are brilliant as a couple or solo!

Popular-Max-2


PROS: Great vibrations, excellent design, high-end materials, perfect for long-distance partners, 1000s of downloadable patterns for solo play

CONS: Some interactivity and connectivity issues



Clone a Willy & Clone a Pussy

It doesn’t get more romantic than this

Next time you’re missing your partner on those quiet nights alone, what if you could pull out their genitals and get busy? 

Well now you can! Kind of.

With the Clone a Willy and Clone a Pussy vagina and penis molding kits, you can create an exact replica sex toy of your lover’s nether regions.

One of the best Amazon sex toys, the Clone a Willy is available in light and dark skin tones, as well as non-skin colors like hot pink. There are even glow-in-the-dark options!

The Process


The Clone a Willy and Clone a Pussy vagina and penis molding kits include everything you need to create the replica sex toy, such as silicone, molding powder, a stirring stick, and a thermometer.

You’ll need to use your own measuring cup, mixing bowls, cardboard, water, stopwatch, scissors, and sharpie pen.

And you know... your cock/pussy.

Clone a willy - how it works

Follow the instructions, mixing everything into your mixing bowl. Once the mold is ready, place your genitals into the mold as directed.

The process can be quite difficult, especially for men, as they will need to maintain an erection throughout. Mix the silicone and then pour into the mold to create a replica of your private parts.

Guys might want to take a Sildenafil or Viagra pill to help them stay erect throughout the process.

Clone a Willy - Results

PROS: Accurate and realistic results, fun gift, unique couples sex toy idea

CONS: Hard to use, mistakes likely


Fleshlight Launch & OhMiBod Fuse Couples Set

When 3 sex toy companies become 1


This toy set sees Fleshlight’s “Launch” automatic male masturbator toy couple up with OhMiBod’s Fuse – a dual-stim Bluetooth-enabled rabbit vibrator. 

To make the mash-up even more confusing, both of these toys are actually powered by Kiiroo technology. 

Basically, 3 different sex toy companies have come together to create a next-level virtual sex experience. You'd be a fool to miss out!

The Fleshlight Launch


The Fleshlight Launch masturbates penises with any standard-sized fleshlight stroker. This automatic Fleshlight mahcine is powered by Kiiroo's industry-leading technology.

Essentially, you can turn a Fleshlight toy into an automatic penis masturbator, giving men dozens of potential Fleshlight sensations to choose from instead of the usual one-size-fits-all situation.

The OhMiBod Fuse  


The Fuse offers dual clitoris and G-spot stimulation thanks to 2 powerful internal motors.

This app-controlled vibrator comes in a sleek design and a sturdy silicone build with vibrations that respond to your touches. 

It’s not got the sexiest design in the world, but some women prefer the minimalist look for their app control vibrators!

Personally, I think it looks like a high-tech kitchen gadget, but maybe you're into that.

How the Launch and Fuse Connect


Simply download the FeelConnect app from the Apple AppStore or Google PlayStore and sync the toys to control each other’s vibrations.

Thanks to its touch-sensitive capabilities, the Fuse responds to touches from your skin and internal vaginal walls, sending signals to the Launch as the pleasure becomes more intense.

You and your partner can sync strokes and vibrations, as well as videos and VR content. You can even sync your vibes to the beat of a Spotify track.

PROS: Touch-sensitive technology, VR content, able to use different Fleshlight sleeves

CONS: Pricey, not the most aesthetically pleasing


Lovense Lush & Hush (LDR Sex Toys)

Bluetooth G-spot vibrator and vibrating butt plug

The Lovense Lush is a Bluetooth-controlled egg vibrator for women while the Hush is an app-controlled vibrating butt plug for either sex.

Both are quiet, 100% waterproof, app-controlled, and made from body-safe silicone.

These toys can't be synced together, but if you’re into power play and teasing your partner over the phone, you could ramp up and calm down their vibrations while they beg you for more.

The Lush G-Spot Vibrator


Designed to stimulate the G-spot, this egg vibrator can be controlled remotely via a smartphone app which allows you to control your vibrations in real-time or choose from 1,000s of custom vibration patterns made by Lovense users.

Check out our Lush 2 review for more detail on the latest Lush egg vibrator toy.

Lovense Lush2 Review

The Hush Vibrating Butt Plug


The Hush can be worn comfortably throughout your daily activities – it’s intended to be an ergonomic wearable buttplug with 120 hours of standby time. 

In other words, your partner can switch it on and control it whenever they feel like it. 

Check out our Lovense Hush review for more detail!

The unique spiral design on the neck of the Hush helps to keep lube trapped inside your sphincter, keeping you comfortable and lubed up all day long.

How the Lush and Hush Connect


The Lush and Hush connect via the Lovense Remote app. Once you’ve both downloaded the app and signed up as members, you can invite each other to become “friends” and have access over each other’s devices.

If you’re looking to tease one another in real-time, the app lets you control vibration intensity by sliding your fingers around the screen, so you can respond to their moans and groans with the gentle flick of a finger.

Remote App Lovense - Close range

PROS: Comfortable, discreet, great for all-day public play


CONS: Don’t sync up, one partner will always be busy controlling things

We-Vibe Sync

Sleek C-shaped Wi-Fi vibrator for her

Want to make her pussy quiver from afar? Then you need the We-Vibe Sync, a 100% waterproof long-distance vibrator which is flexible enough to bend to different vagina shapes, helping to make this a hands-free wearable vibrator. 

It even won the 2018 Beauty Heaven Award for Best Feminine Pleasure Device.

With the We-Connect app, you can control the 10 vibration patterns and 8 speeds from wherever you are in the world.

In the box, you'll find a physical remote control, which has a limit of 3 meters, but for long-distance usage, you can use the We-Connect app. With the app, you can control the 10 vibration patterns and 8 speeds from wherever you are in the world. 

There are 80 possible sensations to explore with the powerful dual motors designed for blended orgasms of clitoris and G-spot stimulation. In case you're not aware, blended orgasms are some of the most powerful feelings of pleasure you will ever feel!

PROS: Durable, high-powered, flexible, wearable vibrator, app control

CONS: Physical remote only reaches 3 meters


Vibease

Video calling has never been sexier

Vibease is a wearable clitoral vibrator that can be used for solo play or long-distance couples’ sex. Many women wear the Vibease in their panties throughout the day.

The Vibease app also comes with integrated messaging and video chats, so your next virtual sex experience can be controlled all from one place. 

Invented in 2013, the Vibease was the world's first wearable smart vibrator that could be controlled through a smartphone app.

The beauty of this remote controlled vibrator is in its simplicity. It comes with two buttons – one button turns the device on/off while the other switches through the 5 vibration modes.

The Vibease app is also quite unique – you (or your partner) drag a circle to control the vibrations, giving you real-time control at your fingertips. 

It’s a cool, quiet, and well-integrated toy, but it doesn’t come with a “male” sex toy equivalent, which is a shame.

PROS: Quiet, affordable, integrating video calling, longstanding reputation

CONS: No “male” equivalent, very simple design


What Are Long Distance Sex Toys?

Long distance sex toys, a.k.a teledildonics, let you have virtual sex with your partner, even if they're on the other side of the earth.

Next time you Skype and talk dirty, your partner could control your intimate sexual pleasure with a long-distance sex toy app on their phone, tablet, or laptop.

Thanks to couples sex toys manufacturers like Lovense and WeVibe, app-controlled sex toys are now a reality that is helping to spice up long distance relationships (or LDRs for short) all over the globe.

Haptic Feedback Technology

These LDR (long distance relationships) sex toys use technology like haptic feedback to record and send simulations to your partner’s toy. 


Usually you have to be connected to Wi-Fi and/or Bluetooth via a digital device like your smartphone, but as long as you have a good connection, everything works like a charm.

For example, with the Onyx & Pearl LDR sex toys, the Pearl vibrator sends signals to the Onyx 2 stroker via Wi-Fi, causing them to move and pulse in sync with one another.

If you’re on webcam to your partner, you’ll feel like you’re having sex in the same “rhythm” as them, making your next video call very exciting and intimate. 

There’s a bunch of fun sex toys for long distance couples, whether you’re into phone-controlled vibrators, remote control Fleshlight alternatives, or app-controlled butt plugs!

How Do Bluetooth Sex Toys Work?

LDR sex toys such as app-controlled vibrators and male penis strokers connect to one another through Bluetooth and/or Wi-Fi connections. 

Usually, a Bluetooth sex toy will be paired to a nearby smartphone or tablet which is then connected to Wi-Fi. Through this Wi-Fi connection, a partner with access can control the wireless sex toy from the other side of the world.

Toys like remote-control vibrators and penis strokers use vibrations, rotations, and contractions to deliver sexual pleasure to the vagina or penis, depending on the design of the sex toy.

LDR sex toys can be controlled by a partner remotely, meaning that bedroom play or all-day discreet public play are possible depending on the toy at hand.

How naughty!

Some LDR sex toys, such as the Lovense Max and Nora, can sync up with one another, creating vibrations and rhythms at the same pace and strength.

This makes it possible to have intense virtual sex with your partner while video chatting or calling each other.

Are LDR Sex Toys Worth the Money?

It can be hard for long-distance couples to keep their passion burning strong. They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but too much absence can be dangerous in the long run.

Long distance relationships are never easy!

However, in addition to phone calls and binging Netflix on Skype, long-distance couples can take advantage of interactive sex toys which help them to share sexual intimacy until they can experience the real thing.

If you think that Wi-Fi sex toys and phone-controlled vibrators could help to keep the fire burning in your LDR, then these smart sex toys are definitely worth the money!

A Vibrator You Can Control From Your Phone

For the last 90 years, we've been able to phone someone on the other side of the planet. For the last 5 or so years, we’ve been able to have virtual sex from the other side of the planet too. 

App-controlled sex toys help you to tide yourselves over until a time that you can be together in person again, whether your partner is traveling around the world for work or spending the semester at a distant college.

Keeping the Fire Alive

LDRs are rarely smooth sailing, but long-distance sex toys help couples in this type of relationship keep the fire alive. They give you and your partner something to look forward to.

We all need to get off!

LDR sex toys provide a myriad of ways for couples in different parts of the globe to stimulate, tease, and interact with each other.

Imagine your partner dirty-talking you over the phone while gently ramping up the vibrations deep inside you. I’m getting wet just thinking about it.

Cum-clusion: Should You Buy A Long Distance Sex Toy?

Sure, a remote control sex toy is never going to replace your lover, and they cannot ever be as good as the real thing in person.

However, if those nights alone are hard to bear, long distance sex toys like the Lovense Max & Nora could be the perfect thing to bring you together from different sides of the globe from some steamy virtual cybersex.

Similarly, if you like the idea of letting your partner control you from anywhere, all-day wearable sex toys like the We-Vibe Sync or the Lovense Hush could be just the ticket.

Whichever you choose, remember to stay safe and have fun!

About The Author ~ Amelie, Sex Toy Tester


I'm a sociology major with a passion for studying the experiences of BDSM-oriented people.   In 2017 I completed my thesis on the ritualized nature of conscious kink, and have been working as a freelance writer, and sex toy tester since.

  • Avatar benny says:

    Great article, thanks! Does someone make a wearable vibrating cock cage, where she can control him while he’s at work, say?

  • Avatar Alberto says:

    very nice

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