The Best Long-Distance Sex Toys for Couples: A Guide to Teledildonics

Phones are vital tools for staying connected in long distance relationships.  But what if instead of just talking from anywhere in the world, you could have sex from anywhere, too?

That's the goal of long distance sex toys, new high tech devices that let you sync up two compatible sex toys for adding extra intimacy to LDRs.

Long distance sex toys, aka teledildonics, let you have virtual sex with your partner, even if they're on the other side of the earth.

LDR sex toys use technology like haptic feedback to record and send simulations to your partner wherever they are.  For example, with the Onyx & Pearl LDR sex toys, the Pearl vibrator sends signals to the Onyx 2 stroker via wifi, so they move in sync with each other.  Combine this with a phone call and a webcam and you can have intense virtual sex that's pretty darn close to the real thing.

Haptic feedback toys are just the tip of the iceburg though, and there's tons of other interesting styles of sex toys that can help you go the distance.

7 Best Long Distance Sex Toys

Just like people, most long distance sex toys come in pairs.  One for the guy parts and one for the gal parts.  So for this section we're pairing up and reviewing the top rated long distance sex toys that work in sync.

Kiroo Onyx & Pearl

The most advanced teledildonics

Despite starting as a medical equipment manufacturer, Kiiroo is quickly rising to become one of the biggest names in the sex toy industry. The Kiiroo Onyx 2 (men) and Pearl 2 (women) are two compatible sex toys that work in tandem to create real-time sexual escapades for couples in long distance relationships. The Kiiroo Onyx 2 and Pearl 2 is a set of sex toys that can help couples in long distance relationships relax and enjoy each other simultaneously.

The vibrations produced in one toy are converted to equivalent pulsations in the other.

Kiiroo Onyx 2

Onyx 2 responds to touch and lets you have virtual sex with your partner through VR. There is a touch-sensitive strip on the front of the device that allows you to change between the three modes and control the speed. To give the device a more fantastic feel and enhance utility, the manufacturer has fitted ten contracting rings inside the device.

Info Snippet: The actual sensations from the contracting rings are pleasurable but not enough to cause orgasm. You’ll have to thrust to climax.

Kiiroo Pearl 2

Kiiroo Pearl 2 is a female vibrator with 9 different vibration settings ranging from slow pulsations to ultra-high vibrations. The Pearl 2 is modern and easy to use, thanks to the highly responsive touch interface. Just like the Onyx 2, Pearl 2 responds to touch and lets you have virtual sex with your partner through VR.

I'm at the point now where just the sound of my Kiroo Pearl's buzzing is enough to get me turned on.  I've become conditioned to associating it with intense orgasms.

How Kiiroo Onyx 2 and Pearl 2 Connect

Kiiroo Onyx 2 and Pearl 2 sex toys connect via the FeelConnect app for Android and iOS to allow couples in LDRs have virtual sex. Vibrations produced in one of the toys is converted to equivalent pulsations and induced in the other device. This means that changes vibrations in her Pearl 2 will change the thrust in your Onyx 2 and vice versa. The Kiiroo Onyx 2 and Pearl 2 make the best use of wireless technology one can imagine.

PROS: Light, quiet, powerful (Onyx 2); strong vibrations, reasonable price (Pearl 2)

CONS: The Pearl 2 doesn’t have a flared base hence impractical for anal play.

Lovense Max & Nora

A feature-rich power couple

Lovense Max and Nora

Max and Nora are a pair of sex toys that can be controlled wirelessly via the internet. Both the Max (male toy) and Nora (female toy) are amazingly high-quality sex toys on their own. Both come in an ergonomic design and deliver pleasurable vibrations that can be controlled through a phone app. They can be used together allowing couples in different parts of the world to have virtual sex.

The more the woman thrusts with her Nora, the more the Max vibrates and contracts with air pressure. Similarly, the more the man thrusts with the Max, the more the Nora vibrates and rotates.

Lovense Max 

The Max comes in a sleek silicone build and overall impressive design. The opening of the male sex toy features a vagina. With an opening, inner labia, and clitoris, the Max is designed pretty accurately to match the female anatomy for a more lifelike experience. Rather than hard or rubbery like in most male masturbators, the sleeve on the Max is soft, smooth, and quite lifelike.

With an opening, inner labia, and clitoris, the Max is designed pretty accurately to match the female anatomy for a more lifelike experience.

Lovense Nora

The Nora comes in a gorgeous rabbit style design. The internal portion of the device features a clitoral mound and is curved to ensure intense g-spot stimulation. The shaft rotates as the clitoral mound vibrates. The Nora makes an excellent vibrator even on its own. If you are a beginner who prefers smaller girth, you’ll love the Nora with its slim shaft that’s extremely easy to insert.

How the Max and Nora Connect

The Max and Nora couples sex toy set connect and interact with each other via the BodyChat app when they are used together. The toys also control each other when used simultaneously using feedback. For instance, the more the woman thrusts with her Nora, the more the Max vibrates and contracts with air pressure. Similarly, the more the man thrusts with the Max, the more the Nora vibrates and rotates.

PROS: Great vibrations, excellent design, high-end materials, perfect for long distance sex.

CONS: Interactivity could use some improvements

Clone a Willy & Clone a Pussy

Give the gift of your genitals turned silicone

When you are in a long-distance relationship with your partner, having a special part of them wherever you are might make things a little easier. With a Clone a Willy and Clone a Pussy vagina or penis moulding kit, you can create an exact replica sex toy of your lover’s bits. That way, you can have that familiar feel of your partners cock or pussy whenever you masturbate.

Using your partners cloned penis or vagina can make masturbation feel more like how sex felt with them.

The Process

The Clone a Willy and Clone a Pussy vagina or penis moulding kit includes everything you need to create the replica sex toy. This includes clear and skinned coloured silicone, moulding powder, stirring stick, thermometer, and a plastic vibrator (for Clone a Willy only). You’ll need measuring cup, mixing bowls, cardboard, water, stopwatch, scissors, and pen or sharpie.

A stroker toy made with the Clone a Pussy is just an outline of the outer vulva and lips, the inside is a textured but not a replica of the vaginal walls.

Mix everything according to the instructions and when you’re done, stick your genitals into the mixing bowl. This part of the process can be quite uncomfortable. It takes a couple of minutes for the mixture to mould into the shape of your genitals. Mix the silicone which you’ll then pour into the mould to create a replica of your private parts.

PROS: Accurate and realistic results, fun gift.

CONS: The kit is not exactly easy to use.

Launch and Fuse Couples Set

A lightweight and portable set of couples’ sex toys.

Fleshlight is a name that’s quickly becoming synonymous with handheld masturbators. Their recent innovation, the Fleshlight Launch has taken the industry by storm. This new toy links up pretty well with the OhMiBod Fuse to create one of the best couples’ sex toys set in the market. The Fuse is simply a dual-stim Bluetooth-enabled rabbit vibrator, but better than your average vibrator in a lot of ways.

Download the FeelConnect app and sync the toys via Bluetooth to control each other’s vibrations.

The Launch

Fleshlight Launch is an interactive sex toy that simulates sex with stroking sensations focused on the penis. This app-controlled sex toy for men was developed by Kiiroo and is compatible with numerous devices out there, which makes it the perfect long-distance sex toy out there.

The Fuse  

OhMiBod Fuse is the haptic companion of the Fleshlight Launch. This touch sensitive female vibrator offers dual stimulation, thanks to two powerful interior motors. The Fuse comes in a sleek design and a sturdy silicone build. The Fuse is a quite advanced sex toy but it gets the basics right too.

How the Launch and Fuse Connect

When used together, Fleshlight Launch and OhMiBod Fuse create one of the best couple’s sex toys in the market. Simply download the FeelConnect app and sync the toys via Bluetooth to control each other’s vibrations. The Fuse responds to skin and internal contact, thanks to its touch-sensitive capability. This long-distance sex toy set offers a lot of features. You and your partner can sync strokes and vibrations videos, VR content, and Spotify music.

PROS: Feature full, VR content

CONS: Pricey

Lush & Hush as LDR Sex Toys

A powerful set of Bluetooth controlled vibrating egg and vibrating butt plug.

The Lovense Lush is a Bluetooth controlled vibrating egg while the Hush is a butt plug. This set of sex toys can be used by couples over long distances. While Lush and Hush can be controlled via an app, they don’t sync with each other or other devices. One partner must control the toy the other is using when using Lush and Hush over long distances.

Download the FeelConnect app and sync the toys via Bluetooth to control each other’s vibrations.

The Lush

The Lush is a silent, waterproof bullet/egg vibrator made from pure silicone. With the exception of the antennae, the entire toy goes inside your vagina when you are wearing it. Designed to stimulate the g-spot, Lush can be controlled remotely via a smartphone app.

The Hush

When it comes to features, the Hush and the Lush are quite similar. Just like its counterpart, the Hush is silent, completely waterproof, and is made from soft, body-safe silicone. Due to its ergonomic design, the Hush can be worn comfortably throughout your daily activities.

How the Lush and Hush Connect

Both Lush and Hush come with a Bluetooth chip inside, which makes it possible to pair the devices with the Wearables app. The app offers an interactive touchpad allowing users to control vibrations just by sliding a finger over the screen. It’s pretty easy to set up and connect with your partner even if you are not a techy person. Remember that you and your partner need to have Android or iOS devices to download the Wearables app and connect.

PROS: Comfortable, discreet, and quiet in both cases

CONS: They don't interact automatically, requires an app to manually control.

We-Vibe Sync

A vibrator designed for couples in long distance relationships

We-vibe Sync Aqua is a beautiful long distance vibrator that's 100% waterproof and made from silky smooth silicone.  

It can be worn hands free and has a flexible bend so it can be adjusted to fit different anatomies.

With the we-connect app you can control the 10 vibration patterns and 8 speeds from wherever you are in the world.

In the box you'll find a physical remote control, which has a limit of 3 meters, but for long distance usage you'll be using the we-connect app.  With the app you can control the 10 vibration patterns and 8 speeds from wherever you are in the world.  Oh and there's also two different motors in this guy, one for the clit and one for g-spot stimulation.

PROS: Durable, high-powered, flexible

CONS: Physical remote has distance limitations

Vibease

an LDR sex toy with an app that lets you chat and video call as you control the vibrations.

Vibease is a wearable clitoral vibrator that can be used for solo play or long-distance couples’ sex.  The app that you use to control its long distance features is a bit more unique.  You drag a circle to control the vibrations, but you can also text and have video and voice calls through the app too, so you can easily see and feel all the action on the other end.

As for the vibrator itself, it's a fairly simple and easy-to-use LDR sex toy, and comes with two buttons. One button turns the device on/off while the other helps you navigate through the five vibration modes. You can also control it with the Vibease Chat app for your iPhone or Android smartphone for free.

PROS: Quiet, affordable

CONS: No complementary toy for your partner

How Do Long Distance Sex Toys Work?

The underlying technology in long distance toys for couples is haptic feedback. Introduced in 1975 by Ted Nelson, haptic feedback is simply a technology that applies force, movement, and vibration to the user. The technology has come a long way since its invention. Today, long-distance toys for couples facilitates real-time, lifelike interactivity vis-à-vis intimacy and sexual pleasure. Long-distance sex toys come in a variety of products and accessories that work in tandem over a long distance.

Like other remote-control vibrators, these interactive sex toys for couples in long-distance relationships use various technologies to function over a long distance. Some of these technologies include Bluetooth, smart devices, virtual reality, and, of course, the internet. With teledildonics, all you need is an internet connection to feel your lover’s touch from miles away. Long distance sex toys come with customizable speed controls and vibratory settings and are designed to feel as realistic as possible.

Are LDR Sex Toys Worth the Money?

Sex and intimacy are important parts of a relationship. But sometimes, distance gets in the way, which can make things very difficult in a relationship. Couples in long distance relationships spend a lot of time planning visits, trying to binge watch the same TV shows together, scheduling elaborate in Skype or Facetime dates, masturbating, etc. just to keep the fire burning. Thanks to LDR vibrators, couples in long distance relationships can engage in real time, lifelike sexual experiences with each other no matter where they are.

Thanks to LDR vibrators, couples in long distance relationships can engage in real time, lifelike sexual experiences with each other no matter where they are.

Have Long Distance Sex From Anywhere on the Planet

For the last 90 years we've been able to phone someone on the other side of the planet, but with LDR toys it's becoming possible to actually have sex from anywhere.  All you need is a couple’s set of long-distance sex toys and an internet connection. Your partner will be able to control the toy’s movement and vibrations with a smartphone app. These app-controlled sex toys will help you tide over until such a time that you can be together again, whether your partner is travelling around the world for work or miles away in a college.

Keep the Fire Alive

LDRs are almost never a smooth sailing. Long distance sex toys help couples in this type of relationship keep the fire alive. They give you and your partner something to look forward to. Long distance sex toys provide a myriad of ways for couples in different parts of the globe to stimulate, tease, and interact with each other. Just like regular toys, long-distance sex toys come with different sets of features to give couples options.

Long distance sex toys provide a myriad of ways for couples in different parts of the globe to stimulate, tease, and interact with each other.

Standard innovations have led to the creation of great products when it comes to app-controlled sex toys. Long distance sex toys are really fun to play with. Once you get synced via Bluetooth, you will be able to remotely start and stop the toy at will. The app also allows your partner to control the vibration speed and pattern. Additionally, most of the apps allow couples to make long-distance video calls and send messages to keep communication alive.

Since long distance vibrators are expensive, they should really have enough bells and whistles to keep you interested for a reasonable time period.

Long distance relationships can be challenging. It takes a lot of work for couples RDLs to keep the fire burning. Long distance sex toys can make it easier for you to connect with your partner. Sure, toys and apps are not going to replace your lover but they are super fun to play with and can make the struggles of a lonely night a lot easier. If you are not quite sure of where to start, give one of the products on our list of the best long-distance sex toys a try.

About The Author ~ Amelie, Sex Toy Tester


I'm a sociology major with a passion for studying the experiences of BDSM-oriented people.   In 2017 I completed my thesis on the ritualized nature of conscious kink, and have been working as a freelance writer, and sex toy tester since.

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