The Best Long-Distance Sex Toys for Couples: A Guide to Teledildonics

Calling and texting is an important way to stay connected in long distance relationships, but what if instead of just talking from anywhere in the world, you could have sex from anywhere, too?

That's the goal of long distance sex toys, new interactive adult toys which allow you to sync up 2 compatible remote control sex toys or give wireless Wi-Fi-based control to a partner who’s 1,000 miles away.

Long distance sex toys, a.k.a teledildonics, let you have virtual sex with your partner, even if they're on the other side of the earth.

Next time you Skype and talk dirty, your partner could control your intimate sexual pleasure with a long-distance sex toy app on their phone, tablet, or laptop.

Thanks to couples sex toys manufacturers like Lovense and WeVibe, app-controlled sex toys are now a reality that is helping to spice up long distance relationships all over the globe.

These LDR (long distance relationship) sex toys use technology like haptic feedback to record and send simulations to your partner’s toy. Usually you have to be connected to Wi-Fi and/or Bluetooth via a digital device like your smartphone, but as long as you have a good connection, everything works like a charm.

For example, with the Onyx & Pearl LDR sex toys, the Pearl vibrator sends signals to the Onyx 2 stroker via Wi-Fi, causing them to move and pulse in sync with one another. If you’re on webcam to your partner, you’ll feel like you’re having sex in the same “rhythm” as them, making your next video call very exciting and intimate.

There’s a bunch of fun sex toys for long distance couples, whether you’re into phone-controlled vibrators, remote control Fleshlight alternatives, or app-controlled butt plugs!

7 Best Long Distance Sex Toys

Most long distance sex toys come in pairs which can be synced together – one for the man and one for the woman. This usually equates to a Flesh-light style automatic penis stroker or “sex machine” for a man and a vibrator or buttplug for the woman.

Although we’re focusing on heterosexual couples in this article, remote control sex toys manufacturers like Kiiroo and Lovense also make long distance sex toys which can be used by same-sex couples.

Let’s take a look at the top-rated sex toys for LDRs!

Kiroo Onyx & Pearl

The world’s most advanced teledildonics toys

Kiiroo actually got their start by making medical supplies and equipment, similar to other sex toy manufacturers like Aneros. Now, they’re one of the biggest long distance sex toy companies on the planet! The Kiiroo Onyx 2 (men) and Pearl 2 (women) are two compatible sex toys that work in tandem to create real-time sexual escapades for couples in long distance relationships.

The pulsations from the male penis stroker are converted to vibrations in the Wi-Fi vibrator at a similar strength and rhythm.

Kiiroo Onyx 2

The Onyx 2 can actually be used as a VR sex toy for you and your partner, as well as a regular remote control sex toy. There is a touch-sensitive strip on the front of the device that allows you to change between the three modes and control the speed. There are 10 contracting rings inside the chamber which send unique pulsations up and down the length of the penis – this is more than just a vibrating Fleshlight.

Although the Onyx 2 produces some amazing penis-massaging sensations, many men find that they still have to “fuck” the toy in order to cum.


Kiiroo Pearl 2

Kiiroo Pearl 2 is a female remote control vibrator with 9 different vibration settings ranging from slow pulsations to ultra-high vibrations. The Pearl 2 also comes with a modern touch-sensitive control panel which makes it feel really classy and sleek, allowing you to have sensual virtual sex with your partner through virtual reality!

As soon as I hear my Kiiroo Pearl 2 buzzing away, I imagine my boyfriend’s cock ejaculating deep inside me. It’s like Pavlov's Dogs
 but I’m salivating over cock.

How Kiiroo Onyx 2 and Pearl 2 Connect

Kiiroo Onyx 2 and Pearl 2 sex toys connect via the FeelConnect app for Android and iOS, allowing couples in LDRs to have virtual sex. The vibration speeds and strengths in her Pearl 2 will be equal to the pulsation speeds and strengths in his Onyx 2. These sex toys for couples are able to effortlessly communicate over Wi-Fi and mimic real sex over 1,000s of miles.

PROS: Light, quiet, powerful (Onyx 2); strong vibrations, reasonable price (Pearl 2)

CONS: Pearl 2 can’t be used anally; Onyx 2 requires manual pumping to cum 

Lovense Max & Nora

More vibrations patterns = more fun

Lovense Max and Nora

Max and Nora are a pair of remote control sex toys that are controlled via the Lovense Remote app which can be downloaded to most modern Android and iOS phones, tablets, and laptops. In case you hadn’t guessed, Max is the male toy and Nora is the female toy. Both can be used individually for solo play, but syncing them together is when the fun really starts!

Lovense have recently released the Max 2, a new version of the Max automatic male masturbator.

The more the woman thrusts with her Nora, the more the Max vibrates and contracts with air pressure. Similarly, the more the man thrusts with the Max, the more the Nora vibrates and rotates, massaging the internal G-spot and clitoris simultaneously.

Lovense Max 

The Lovense Max is designed with an internal Fleshlight-style sleeve which resembles a vagina. The toy itself vibrates and contracts to massage your cock, using air pressure to simulate mild suction on your cock. Combined with the bumpy inner texture of the orifice, the Lovense Max is intense enough that some men cum without thrusting at all.

The Max is designed to have a vagina, clitoris, and inner labia, so it’s a pretty accurate replica for your long distance virtual sex experience.

Lovense Nora

The Nora comes in a gorgeous rabbit-style design. The internal portion of the device features a clitoral mound and is curved to ensure intense g-spot stimulation. As this section vibrates, the internal shaft rotates, creating excellent dual stimulation for your G-spot and clitoris. Many women use rabbit vibrators during sex with their partner, so why not during virtual sex?

The blended orgasm produced by rabbit vibrators is often the most intense orgasm that a woman will ever experience, leading many women to have their first-ever orgasm.

How the Max and Nora Connect

The Max and Nora couples sex toy set connect and interact with each other via the Lovense Remote app which can be found on the Google Playstore and Apple Appstore. As well as syncing their vibrations, rotations, and contractions with one another during virtual sex, the Lovense Remote app features a database of 1,000s of vibration and contraction patterns created by Lovense users for you to try – these fun sex toys are brilliant as a couple or solo!

PROS: Great vibrations, excellent design, high-end materials, perfect for long distance sex, 1000s of downloadable patterns for solo play

CONS: Some interactivity and connectivity issues



Clone a Willy & Clone a Pussy

It doesn’t get more romantic than this

Next time you’re missing your partner, what if you could pull out their genitals and get busy? With the Clone a Willy and Clone a Pussy vagina and penis molding kits, you can create an exact replica sex toy of your lover’s nether regions. Next time you want to masturbate, you can enjoy the familiar feel of your partner’s cock or pussy!

The Process

The Clone a Willy and Clone a Pussy vagina and penis molding kits include everything you need to create the replica sex toy. This includes clear and skin-colored silicone, molding powder, a stirring stick, a thermometer, and a plastic vibrator for the Clone a Willy. You’ll need to use your own measuring cup, mixing bowls, cardboard, water, stopwatch, scissors, and sharpie pen.

One of the best Amazon sex toys, the Clone a Willy is available in light and dark skin tones, as well as non-skin colors like hot pink. There are even glow-in-the-dark options!

Follow the instructions, mixing everything into your mixing bowl. Once the mold is ready, place your genitals into the mold as directed. The process can be quite difficult, especially for men, as they will need to maintain an erection throughout. Mix the silicone and then pour into the mold to create a replica of your private parts.

Men creating a replica of their penis might want to consider taking a Sildenafil (generic Viagra) pill to help them stay erect throughout the process.

PROS: Accurate and realistic results, fun gift, unique couples sex toy idea

CONS: Hard to use, mistakes likely


Launch and Fuse Couples Set

When 3 sex toy companies become 1

This cross-company pairing of sex toys for long-distance couples sees Fleshlight’s “Launch” automatic male masturbator toy couple up with OhMiBod’s The Fuse – a dual-stim Bluetooth-enabled rabbit vibrator. To make the mash-up even more confusing, both of these toys are actually powered by Kiiroo technology. Basically, 3 different sex toy companies have come together to create a next-level teledildonics experience. You’d be a fool to miss out!

Download the FeelConnect app and sync the toys via Bluetooth to control each other’s vibrations.

The Launch

Fleshlight Launch is an interactive sex toy that combines Fleshlight’s Superskin sleeve penis strokers with Kiiroo’s male masturbator technology. Essentially, you can turn a Fleshlight toy into an automatic penis masturbator, giving men dozens of potential Fleshlight sensations to choose from. Most other male sex machines are one-size-fits-all, but the Launch gives you multiple size and style options to peruse.

The Fuse  

The OhMiBod Fuse offers dual clitoris and G-spot stimulation thanks to 2 powerful internal motors. The Fuse comes in a sleek design and a sturdy silicone build, offering robust and sturdy vibrations which respond to your touches. It’s not got the sexiest design in the world, but some women prefer the minimalist look for their long distance vibrators! Personally, I think it looks like a high-tech kitchen gadget, but maybe that’s your kink.

How the Launch and Fuse Connect

Simply download the FeelConnect app from the Apple AppStore or Google PlayStore and sync the toys to control each other’s vibrations. Thanks to its touch-sensitive capabilities, the Fuse responds to touches from your skin and internal vaginal walls, sending signals to the Launch as the pleasure becomes more intense. You and your partner can sync strokes and vibrations, as well as videos and VR content. You can even sync your vibes to the beat of a Spotify track.

Most people recommend downtempo hip hop and R&B for their Spotify sex toys, but I think that’s too easy. Why not try some fast Heavy Metal or off-beat Reggae and really shake things up? Literally.

PROS: Touch-sensitive technology, VR content, able to use different Fleshlight sleeves

CONS: Pricey, not the most aesthetically pleasing


Lush & Hush as LDR Sex Toys

Powerful Bluetooth vibrator and butt plug from Lovense

The Lovense Lush is a Bluetooth-controlled vibrating egg for women while the Hush is an app-controlled butt plug for either sex. Partners can give one another access to the control of their Lush or Hush remote control sex toy via the Lovense Remote app, but these toys cannot be synced. Still, if you’re into power play and teasing your partner over the phone, you could ramp up and calm down their vibrations while they beg you for more.

The Lush

The Lush is a silent, waterproof bullet/egg vibrator made from 100% medical-grade silicone. The entire toy goes inside your vagina when you are wearing it, with the exception of the antenna. Designed to stimulate the g-spot, Lush can be controlled remotely via a smartphone app which allows you to control your vibrations in real-time or choose from 1,000s of custom vibration patterns made by Lovense users.

The Hush

Just like its counterpart, the Hush is silent, completely waterproof, and is made from soft, body-safe silicone. Due to its ergonomic design, the Hush can be worn comfortably throughout your daily activities – it’s intended to be a wearable buttplug with 120 hours of standby time, meaning that your partner can switch it on and control it when they feel like it. The unique spiral design on the neck of the Hush helps to keep lube trapped inside your sphincter, keeping you comfortable and lubed up all day long.

How the Lush and Hush Connect

The Lush and Hush connect via the Lovense Remote app. Once you’ve both downloaded the app and signed up as members, you can invite each other to become “friends” and have access over each other’s devices. If you’re looking to tease one another in real-time, the app lets you control vibration intensity by sliding your fingers around the screen, so you can respond to their moans and groans with the gentle flick of a finger.

PROS: Comfortable, discreet, great for all-day public play


CONS: Don’t sync up, one partner will always be busy controlling things

We-Vibe Sync

Cool and sleek Wi-Fi vibrator for her

Want to make her pussy quiver from afar? Then you need the We-Vibe Sync, a 100% waterproof long-distance vibrator which is flexible enough to bend to different vagina shapes, helping to make this a hands-free wearable vibrator. It even won the 2018 Beauty Heaven Award for Best Feminine Pleasure Device.

With the we-connect app, you can control the 10 vibration patterns and 8 speeds from wherever you are in the world.

In the box, you'll find a physical remote control, which has a limit of 3 meters, but for long-distance usage, you'll be using the We-connect app. You can use the app to control the 10 vibration patterns and 8 speeds from wherever you are in the world, giving you 80 possible sensations to explore with the powerful dual motors designed for blended orgasms of clitoris and G-spot stimulation.

PROS: Durable, high-powered, flexible, wearable vibrator, app control

CONS: Physical remote only reaches 3 meters


Vibease

Video calling has never been sexier

Vibease is a wearable clitoral vibrator that can be used for solo play or long-distance couples’ sex. The app that you use is quite unique – you drag a circle to control the vibrations, giving you real-time control at your fingertips. However, the Vibease app comes with integrated messaging and video chats, so your next virtual sex experience can be controlled all from one place.

The beauty of this remote controlled vibrator is in its simplicity. It comes with two buttons – one button turns the device on/off while the other switches through the 5 vibration modes. It’s a cool, quiet, and well-integrated toy, but it doesn’t come with a “male” sex toy equivalent, which is a shame.

Invented in 2013, the Vibease was the world's first wearable smart vibrator that could be controlled through a smartphone app.

PROS: Quiet, affordable, integrating video calling, longstanding reputation

CONS: No “male” equivalent, very simple design


How Do Long Distance Sex Toys Work?

Long distance sex toys such as app-controlled vibrators and male penis strokers connect to one another through Bluetooth and/or Wi-Fi connections. Usually, a Bluetooth sex toy will be paired to a nearby smartphone or tablet which is then connected to Wi-Fi. Through this Wi-Fi connection, a partner with access can control the wireless sex toy from the other side of the world.

Toys like remote-control vibrators and penis strokers use vibrations, rotations, and contractions to deliver sexual pleasure to the vagina or penis, depending on the design of the sex toy. Long distance sex toys can be controlled by a partner remotely, meaning that bedroom play or all-day discreet public play are possible depending on the toy at hand.

Some long distance sex toys, such as the Lovense Max and Nora, can sync up with one another, creating vibrations and rhythms at the same pace and strength. This makes it possible to have intense virtual sex with your partner while video chatting or calling each other.

Are LDR Sex Toys Worth the Money?

It can be hard for long-distance couples to keep their passion burning strong. They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but too much absence can be dangerous in the long run. In addition to organizing meet-ups and binging Netflix while Skyping, long-distance couples can take advantage of interactive sex toys which help them to share sexual intimacy until they can experience the real thing.

If you think that long distance sex toys and phone-controlled vibrators could help to keep the fire burning in your LDR, then these smart sex toys are definitely worth the money!

Have Long Distance Sex From Anywhere on the Planet

For the last 90 years, we've been able to phone someone on the other side of the planet. For the last 5 or so years, we’ve been able to have virtual sex from the other side of the planet too. App-controlled sex toys help you to tide yourselves over until a time that you can be together in person again, whether your partner is traveling around the world for work or spending the semester at a distant college.

Keep the Fire Alive

LDRs are rarely smooth sailing, but long-distance sex toys help couples in this type of relationship keep the fire alive. They give you and your partner something to look forward to. Long distance sex toys provide a myriad of ways for couples in different parts of the globe to stimulate, tease, and interact with each other. Just like regular toys, long-distance sex toys come with different sets of features to give couples multiple sensual experiences.

Imagine your partner dirty-talking you over the phone while gently ramping up the vibrations deep inside you. I’m getting wet just thinking about it.

Sure, a remote control sex toy is never going to replace your lover, and they cannot ever be as good as the real thing in person. However, if you’re struggling with your libido and those nights alone are hard to bear, long distance sex toys could be the perfect thing to bring you together from different sides of the globe.

About The Author ~ Amelie, Sex Toy Tester


I'm a sociology major with a passion for studying the experiences of BDSM-oriented people.   In 2017 I completed my thesis on the ritualized nature of conscious kink, and have been working as a freelance writer, and sex toy tester since.

  • Avatar benny says:

    Great article, thanks! Does someone make a wearable vibrating cock cage, where she can control him while he’s at work, say?

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