Anal sex is great, but it’s also one of the most inconvenient and unspontaneous forms of sex. Despite what they might depict in the movies (we’re looking at you Brokeback Mountain), anal sex usually requires douching, cleaning, putting a towel down, and copious amounts of anal lubricant. Sadly, it’s not like penis-vagina sex, where a little bit of foreplay is usually enough to get the whole thing going in no time.
No, great anal sex requires a good anal lube – and lots of it. And although there are many different types of lube which could do the job, they can be expensive and hard to come by, especially if they’re of high quality. Ideally, anal sex requires a longlasting silicone-based lube like Gun Oil, which can be pricey and hard to find.
Some people also have problems with conventional lubes, especially water-based lubes which often have long ingredients lists and can cause allergic reactions if you’re unfortunate enough to be sensitive to one of the ingredients. Furthermore, there’s also the issue of unexpected anal sex, especially if you’re a gay man who gets lucky unexpectedly. What if you don’t have any anal lube around? What are you going to do?
There are many reasons that you might be interested in DIY anal lube or makeshift lube items around the house, so let’s take a look at the crème de la crème of cheap anal lube substitutes.
Household Anal Lubes
First things first, let’s get the easiest ones out of the way. The following products are household items which are cheap, readily available, and can be easily used as an anal lubricant. You don’t have to mix them with anything or change them – they’re just ready to go when you are!
Along with avocados and kale, coconut oil has been thrust into popularity in recent years thanks to its status as a superfood, boasting a cornucopia of health benefits for your skin, hair, heart, and more. However, coconut oil can be used incredibly effectively as a lube, especially for anal sex. It lasts much longer than water-based lube, which dries out quickly, and it’s a 100% natural anal lube, so you’re unlikely to experience an allergic reaction unless you have allergies to coconut itself.
The only downside is that it destroys condoms because it’s an oil-based lube, and that’s sadly what all oil-based lubes do. The other downside is that it takes a long time to leave your body, but it’s not doing anything particularly harmful while it’s inside you. If you’re feeling particularly kinky, it’s also totally edible, so feel free to use your imagination there!
The great thing about coconut oil lube is that it smells amazing and it’s cheap to buy, so you can have plenty of bareback anal sex without racking up a huge lubricant bill.
As long as you make sure that it's 100% pure, decent quality, and not past its expiration date, then you can totally use olive oil as natural anal lube. Because olive oil is a lighter plant-based oil, it’s more ideal for vaginal and anal sex when compared to some of its plant-based oil brethren. Similarly to coconut oil, you need to bear in mind that the oil will destroy latex/polyisoprene condoms and take a while to leave your body.
While I do like the taste/smell of olives personally, I’m not sure that I’d call it “sexy” per se.
Aloe Vera gel
Aloe Vera gel is naturally a water-based lube which means that it can be used with condoms! This makes it ideal as a general-purpose go-to household lube for both vaginal and anal sex, with or without condoms involved. It’s cheaper than most water-based lubes, which is great, but it can become a little bit sticky as it dries, which some people find uncomfortable… so watch out for that.
Also bear in mind that most Aloe Vera gels are only 99% or 99.5% Aloe Vera gel, containing some preservatives and additives, so make sure that you’re not allergic to any of the ingredients. Still, if you use the gel on your skin regularly and don’t experience any adverse reactions, then you’re unlikely to experience problems using it as a makeshift lube.
DIY Anal Lube Recipes
If you’re feeling crafty and want to cook up (not literally) some DIY anal lube recipes at home, then we’ve got a couple of recipes for you to try out below. We’ve cherry-picked the more simple and straightforward recipes we could find – no one wants to spend 4 hours slaving over a hot stove just to make a little booty lube.
Coconut oil with essential oils
Yep, coconut oil is back, and this time it brought its health store neighbor – essential oils. You’ve probably heard a lot of buzz around these guys in the health and beauty community, and for good reason. Here’s a very simple recipe which combines the two.
- Coconut oil (desired amount)
- Lavender essential oil (4 drops)
- Peppermint essential oil (3 drops)
- YlangYlang essential oil (4 drops)
- Geranium essential oil (4 drops)
- Jasmine essential oil (3 drops)
And that’s it!
Lavender is known for its floral scent and calming properties, while YlangYlang is touted as an aphrodisiac to help increase sexual arousal. The peppermint oil is designed to make you tingle a little, but some people don’t find the sensation to be pleasurable, so feel free to remove the peppermint oil if tingling isn’t your jam.
As we mentioned earlier, coconut oil is a brilliant base for an anal lube, either on its own or with these extra added ingredients. It can be used safely for anal lubrication, but bear in mind that it is not condom-safe, so it can only be used for anal barebacking.
Also, do keep in mind that many types of coconut oil are solid at room temperature, so you might need to gently heat the coconut oil up a few degrees (nothing major) in order to turn it into a liquid. However, if you’re living in a relatively warm climate, the oil might already be liquid at room temperature anyway.
Aloe Vera with Flaxseed Oil
This is essentially a hybrid lube which uses aloe vera gel (water-based) and flaxseed oil (oil-based) to create a unique natural anal lube formula which is uniquely scented and stirs up erotic sensations within the body. Because it’s an unusual water-oil hybrid, you get to enjoy a consistency which is not typical of most anal lubes.
Shake these ingredients together in a jar, ensuring they are mixed well:
- Aloe Vera gel (1/4 cup)
- Flax Seed oil (1/4 cup)
- Peppermint essential oil (4 drops)
- Sensations essential oil (10 drops)
Of course, you can always adjust the ratios and amounts of these ingredients according to your preferences, especially if you prefer the aroma of one essential oil over the other. No one wants to put an anal lube inside them which they don’t like the smell of!
“Sensations” essential oil is a mixture of different oils, such as ylangylang, jasmine, coriander, bergamot, and geranium. These “sensations” oils are designed to produce romantic, aromatic scents which are great for a romantic massage, as well as for anal lube.
Just bear in mind that because this recipe contains flax seed oil (i.e. a plant-based oil), it is not suitable for use with most condoms and sex barriers.
Best Household Anal Lube For Condoms
If you’re trying to save money or you simply need to have protected anal sex at short notice, then Aloe Vera Gel is without a doubt the best anal lube for condoms. This is because Aloe Vera is naturally water-based, so it doesn’t react with the latex or polyisoprene to destroy it as oil-based lubes do. The best overall anal lube for condoms is silicone-based lubricants, but you’re unlikely to find a makeshift version of silicone-based lube any time soon!
Aloe Vera gel is mostly natural, but do bear in mind that it usually contains some additives and preservatives, so always check that you’re not allergic to the ingredients and that there are none of the ingredients that you want to avoid in lube included. With that said, you’ll most likely be fine, and the thick consistency of this water-based natural lube makes it ideal for anal, giving you more slipperiness to work with.
Household Anal Lubes to Avoid
When you’re growing up as a hormone-filled horny teenager, there are lots of things that you might use as makeshift lube or sex toys because you simply don’t have access to the real thing (or can’t afford it!) However, we should not make these same mistakes as adults, and there is lots of misinformation around certain household items which needs to be cleared up.
While some makeshift lubes in this section could potentially be used for vaginal sex, I would personally not recommend any of them for anal sex unless you want to understand what true pain really is.
First and foremost, Vaseline is made from petroleum oils, which makes it an oil-based lube. This means that it destroys most condoms, so it’s not safe for any kind of protected sex you plan on having. In addition to this, it’s also a breeding ground for bacteria and can lead to infections. In fact, women who use Vaseline for lube are 220% more likely to develop Bacterial Vaginosis than women who don’t use Vaseline for lube.
The other thing to bear in mind is that Vaseline is really stubborn (it’s designed to be) so it often takes a long time to leave your body, especially if it’s deep inside your anus. Furthermore, it’s messy and greasy, ruining your clothes and bed sheets if you’re not careful. The greasy nature of Vaseline lube is not exactly a massive turn-on.
Granted, it seems like saliva as a lubricant should be a no brainer… it’s water-based, it’s readily available, and it’s naturally produced by our bodies. Although it’s not ideal, saliva may work well enough for oral sex and possibly vaginal sex between longtime partners, although there is the possibility of transmitting infections (via the saliva) to take into consideration.
However, saliva is not slippery or longlasting enough to facilitate comfortable anal sex for any prolonged period of time. Believe me, if you try to take a dick of any reasonable size up your ass via nothing but a mouthful of saliva, you’re going to have a really bad time and possibly even damage your anal tract.
“While saliva from oral sex can seem more sensual, your spittle can leave the skin feeling dry. It also only provides a thin barrier, so could lead to painful sex as there is inadequate lubrication.”
Megan Barnett, Sex Expert
Some people naturally make the assumption that because liquid soap is cleansing, it must be okay to use as an anal lubricant. While there is some logic to that, it doesn’t hold up in reality. In fact, soap can cause burning sensations for the genitals, especially the penis and vagina, so it’s not a great idea to risk it for anal.
Most soaps also have a pH balance of 7-9, making them slightly alkaline, while your anus has a pH balance of 6-7, making it slightly acidic. This mismatch of pH balances can lead to further problems and irritation.
If you’re looking for a reliable go-to household anal lube, I would recommend Aloe Vera gel for all kinds of anal sex, in addition to coconut oil for anal sex without a condom. I hope this guide has helped you to understand what to use as lube for backdoor sex, whether you’re trying something new or looking to spice up your already-exciting sex life. Have fun!