By: JC Ways
December 20, 2019
According to Marie Claire, 85% of adults have tried some form of light BDSM. With the popularity of books like Fifty Shades Of Grey opening up a dialogue on kinky sex, more and more people are turning to sexy spanking and flogging in the bedroom. There are so many bondage spanking toys on the market, but here I look at 17 of the best sex whips, floggers, and paddles for beginners and experts alike.
We all have to start somewhere!Best For: Flogging newbies
Made from faux leather and sexy satin, this black beginner’s flogger is 18 inches in total length, folding down to 6.5 inches for easy storage. Several soft fronds help you to catch a large surface area of your partner’s bottom without hurting them too much. This fetish toy also comes with a wrist loop, making it perfect for beginners who need sadism practice!
As you can probably guess, it hurts.Best For: Intermediate and experienced sex whippers.
Not for the faint of heart, the Devil’s Tongue whip is capable of producing a deep, powerful pop on the skin. Available in either leather or neoprene-based rubber, this 30-inch whip boasts a wrist strap and a flexible braided handle for ease of use. If you’re using this bad boy on a bottom, I’d warm them up a bit before going straight in with the savage Devil’s Tongue!
Solid riding crop from the Fetish Fantasy series.Best For: Easy cleaning and maintenance.
This 16-inch crop is made from silicone and ABS plastic, so it’s completely body-safe, hygienic, and easy to clean after play. The popper on this thing is pretty large, so it’s good for bottoms who enjoy a wide surface area when being hit with a crop. It’s also part of the famous Fetish Fantasy series, so you know it’s decent quality.
Nice and long for experienced flogging fans.Best For: Teasing your bottom’s ass before whacking them.
Part of the Calexotics series, this long flogger is made from PVC tassels, polyester fabric, and nickel-free iron rivets, so it’s perfect for animal lovers who want to avoid a leather flogger. 27 inches long overall, with nearly 15 inches worth of tassels, this flogger is perfect for stroking your bottom’s ass before giving them a good, solid spanking like no tomorrow.
Feel like Indiana himself.Best For: BDSM experts and professionals with skills
Reserved for BDSM experts and practitioners, this Etsy sex whip is one of the best bullwhips I could find. Boasting a rigid handle and woven tail, this leather sex whip comes in many different size options, from 35 inches to 63 inches total length. This is the sort of whip that you need a large play space for – it will deliver a very sharp crack to your sub’s body, so be careful!
Lovely intimidating sex whip!Best For: Getting your sub’s undivided attention.
Another great sex toy product from Bondage Boutique, this small bullwhip measures 35 inches in length, making it perfect for intermediate BDSM fans. The striking red faux snakeskin is supported by a strong 5-inch handle and a wrist strap, giving the top full control over their bottom. The unique red aesthetic adds to the drama of any BDSM scene.
LoveHoney has produced a great “how to spank” video if you’re new to all of this. It’s basically a video on BDSM for beginners.
Wear your heart on your sleeve… or your ass.Best For: Leaving marks on your sub.
If you’re after BDSM for beginners, a sex paddle like this is a great place to start. This 12-inch spanking paddle is made from genuine cowhide leather, producing a lovely thud as it smacks into your sub’s ass. Brilliant for light BDSM, this 2-flap slapper also features 3 love heart impressions – if you smack hard enough, you’ll leave hearts on your sub’s ass!
Chains and whips excite me.Best For: Taking impact play to the next level.
This 21-inch whip from LoveHoney is certainly unique, featuring tassels of small metal balls that can be warmed up or cooled down in water for some exhilarating temperature play. The metal ball chains are perfect for tickling and teasing your sub before giving them a sharp smack on the ass!
Forms of sexual sadomasochistic behavior where a submissive partner is spanked or hit with a tool (whip, paddle, flogger etc.) are often referred to as “impact play”.
Anal dildo meets sex whip!Best For: Medieval roleplay, anal play
Shaped vaguely like a dragon’s tail, this sex whip can be used as a whip (duh) but the 7-inch handle also doubles as an insertable anal dildo too. This product is made from 100% silicone, so it’s totally hypoallergenic and easy to sanitize by boiling, bleaching and dishwashing. Producing a stingy-yet-thuddy smack, there’s so much potential with this toy.
Anal dildo meets sex whip… talk about an all-in-one product.
Naughty or nice.Best For: BDSM for beginners
If you’re new to bondage spanking or you just have a really crap pain tolerance, this beginner’s BDSM paddle from LoveHoney is perfect for you! This flexible paddle has 2 sides – a padded satin side (cushioned thud) and a leather side (noisy sting) for two different spanking experiences. There are red and black options available.
Who needs floggers when you’ve got daddy’s belt?Best For: Instilling fear.
This leather slapper product is designed like an old-school belt, complete with belt buckle and 14 steel rivets for added pain. If you grab the ends of this looped slapper and pull them apart, the leather will snap loudly in the middle – it’s great for making your bottom scared in anticipation. I’d say this fetish toy is more for intermediate BDSM, as it can get VERY painful.
If your sub was hit with a belt as a child, this could be potentially triggering (in a non-sexy way) so just bear that in mind.
I hope you did your homework!Best For: Teacher/Student roleplay
Ideal for naughty schoolboy/schoolgirl roleplay, this old-fashioned cane is made from rattan and suede, giving it a sturdy, flexible, and high-quality feel. It’s available in 2 size options – 30 inches or 23 inches – depending on your preference and experience level. Every one of these canes is lovingly handmade in Los Angeles.
Caning was a popular punishment in the schools of Victorian England and Wales. Old-fashioned school canes were made from rattan, a wicker-weave material.
Get it as dirty as you like.Best For: Hitting a large surface area.
This 100% silicone paddle is around 13 inches long, but the paddle itself is around 6.25 inches by 3.1 inches, so there’s quite a lot of surface area to smack your bitch with. Silicone is a brilliant sex toy material – you can clean it thoroughly by boiling/bleaching and it spreads physical energy throughout itself evenly. Basically, you get a nice, wide smack for your sub.
I’m a big fan of silicone paddles, even if they do remind me of spatulas.
Okay, there are many different types of whips in BDSM, but there are 4 main categories that most impact play tools will fall under:
BDSM whips can be made from various materials, but they’re usually made from leather or faux leather. Most of the time, whips are long and have a single popper (the part that hits the sub). Most whips should only be used by professionals and experienced BDSM fans, as they are long, powerful, hard to aim, and have the potential to cause serious harm.
The whip is widely considered to be the most dangerous impact play tool due to its sheer power and tiny surface area.
A sexy variation of the tools used to hit horses when horseracing, riding crops are usually long fiberglass/PVC rods that have a small leather loop on the end of them, sometimes called a “popper”. Riding crops tend to be good for beginners, as they naturally have less power in their swing due to the stiff neck.
Spanking paddles have a large surface area and are usually made from a stiff material that gives a nice deep “thud” when it hits the sub. Paddles tend to be made from materials like leather and wood. They’re good for beginners once again because their stiff construction limits the power of the swing, reducing pain.
A flogger usually consists of a solid, firm handle with several tassels attached to it for impact. These tassels are often made from leather or faux leather, though you can get variations such as metal ball chain floggers. Flogger toys are ideal for intermediate sadomasochists, as the tassels get some natural swing for increased power, but not too much.
If you want to try a flogger but you’re afraid of hurting your sub, buy a deerskin flogger. The leather of deerskin is very soft and breathable, so it’s hard to do serious damage.
Many of us want to try impact play, but we’re naturally scared of hurting ourselves or our partners. Here I give you some basic tips on impact play safety.
First things first, the submissive partner should ALWAYS have a safeword that they can say to stop the scene if they feel unsafe or like they’re in too much pain. Common safewords include:1. A random word you wouldn’t utter during sex – banana, napkin, baseball, etc. Don’t use words like “stop” and “no more” which you might say as part of a scene2. A traffic light system for pain – green = this is fine, yellow = this is hurting, red = stop immediately3. A motion, grunt, or signal (if the person is gagged) – this might include dropping an object, grunting 3 times, stamping your foot, etc.
As a general rule of thumb:– Whips are for ADVANCED and PROFESSIONAL doms- Floggers are for INTERMEDIATE and ADVANCED doms- Riding crops are for BEGINNER and INTERMEDIATE doms- Spanking paddles are for BEGINNER domsThis may change depending on the specific product you’re looking at, but these are the general guidelines. Basically, whips and floggers have tassel(s) which bend in the air, giving them much more “snap” and making them more dangerous. On the other hand, paddles and riding crops usually have stiff necks/handles, so they only hit the sub with as much force as the dom’s arm-swing creates.
I mean I’m not exactly a physics teacher, but I’m sure you get what I’m trying to say. Whips and floggers go “crack”. Paddles and riding crops do not.
You can find impact play body charts that show you which parts of the human body are safe for impact play, which are risky, and which you should avoid at all costs.SAFE = bottom, backs of thighs, fronts of thighs, forearmsLOW RISK = inner thighs, calves, backs of shoulders, upper armsHIGH RISK = shins, feet, knees, hands, head, stomach, chest, lower back, spine, back of neckAVOID = Achilles tendons (back of feet), backs of knees, elbows, armpits, wrists, ears, front of neck
Personally, I wouldn’t stray from the safe and low-risk sections of the body. Better safe than sorry.
Overall, I think that the LoveHoney Beginner’s BDSM Flogger is the best value toy on this list because it’s a good price and it’s perfect for beginners. Although the Stockroom Rattan Cane is also a great toy, the LoveHoney Flogger is relatively safe and easy to purchase without a visit to a sex store. Happy flogging!
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